How many times have you heard this your attitude will make or break your day. Too many times, we let some one else’s behavior dictate how we are going to feel. You know I’m right. How many times have you started the day off happy and excited only to have your good mood crushed by someone cutting you off in traffic, taking the last cinnamon raising bagel (okay maybe that was just me), not saying good morning back when you walk into the office. Or, having a customer yell at you because the thing they ordered is not what they expected. Once any of those things happen or a hundred other things you have no control over your attitude goes into a slump. This week don’t take everything so personal, people have bad days, that does not mean that you have to join them. Be the light, that you would like to see in your part of the world. Say good morning with a smile, even if the intended recipient doesn’t say it back. Wish good things for the person who cut you off in traffic. When you set your intention to give light, love, and peace the other person’s behavior has no effect on you. It may not happen overnight, but darkness can’t beat the light of a good attitude. Try it and tell me how it goes.
We would all like to think we are attentive listeners. In our minds, our communications with others are an interactive exchange of ideas and opinions. The truth is we argue because each party feels the need not only to be heard. But, to be right! Why are they so unreasonable we ask ourselves? Often, even though we are looking at someone squarely in their eyes; our minds are racing to come up with a witty or defensive response.
This is especially true if the other person is saying something we just do not want to hear. How well do you listen? Do you leave space in relationships for others to speak their truth? Being a good listener diffuses conflict and opens the door to real dialogue.
You can gage how well you listen to the depths of your relationships. Is the closeness you believe you have a figment of your imagination. The next conversation you have to try this: don’t just look attentive. Repeat everything the person says in your head. This will force you to really hear what they are saying and stop you from going into response mode.
Whether it’s a child, co- worker or someone we love, we all want respect and honor in our relationships. These cannot exist without real listening. Don’t physically, emotionally, or mentally turn your back on a conversation. Resist the need to be right! Open your spirit and listen for real.