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Letting Go of “Shoulds”: How to Rewrite Your Midlife Story With Freedom and Joy

Hello and welcome to the Midlife Made Easier blog, a supportive space where midlife women prioritize their healing, reclaim their power, and build a life they love. Here, we shine a light on the unique health challenges women face in midlife, particularly those related to menopause, heart health, and high blood pressure, offering compassionate guidance, practical strategies, and inspiration to help you thrive, not just survive. This is your place to take charge of your well-being, find your voice, and feel seen, supported, and strong.

 Before we dive in, I’d like to share our complimentary guide, The Midlife Reboot Workbook. If you’re ready to reclaim your spark, wake up excited again, and reconnect with your purpose, this workbook will give you the tools to start fresh.

The Weight of “Should”

One of the things that can haunt us in midlife is the endless list of “shoulds.”

  • Should I switch careers?

  • Should I stay in this relationship?

  • Maybe I should keep quiet instead of speaking up.

The list goes on. These thoughts become exhausting and paralyzing when piled onto everything else: the laundry list of things you need to do, want to do, or desperately wish you could do but can’t. Before you know it, the “shoulds” are running your life instead of you.

What Happens If We Don’t Let Go

Holding on to “shoulds” keeps us:

  • Stuck in indecision, unable to move forward because we’re waiting for the “perfect” choice.

  • Trapped in guilt, carrying the weight of obligations that aren’t truly ours.

  • Disconnected from ourselves, because we lose sight of what we actually want in the noise of expectations.

Over time, “shoulds” chip away at our energy, confidence, and joy. They keep us living someone else’s story instead of writing our own.

A Story of Letting Go

I once worked with a woman named Karen who was weary from years of “shoulds.” She said, “I should be further along in my career. I should be happy in my marriage. I should be eating better. I should be exercising more.”

She was exhausted. None of those “shoulds” actually came from her; they were echoes of family expectations, society’s messages about what midlife “should” look like, and her own inner critic.

The day Karen began asking herself, “What do I want?” instead of “What should I do?” was a turning point. She left the volunteer commitments that drained her, started painting again (something she loved in her 20s), and found joy in small daily choices that reflected who she really was.

Her life didn’t magically transform overnight, but her perspective did. She was no longer trapped by “shoulds.” She was free to build a life she actually loved.

Why Letting Go Is a Gift

When you release the grip of “should,” you give yourself permission to:

  • Live with authenticity instead of comparison.

  • Choose with clarity instead of guilt.

  • Embrace joy in small, everyday moments.

Letting go of “shoulds” is not about being reckless; it’s about choosing freedom, alignment, and peace in midlife.

You’ve Got This

Your life story doesn’t have to be dictated by “shoulds.” It can be rewritten with choice, authenticity, and love. The first step? Start paying attention to which thoughts are truly your own and which ones are borrowed expectations. Then, let go of what no longer serves you.

Well, that is all I have for you today, my friend. Please share this post with someone you love. Let us know in the comments: What is one “should” you’re ready to let go of today? 

 Check out our new workbook: The Midlife Reboot Workbook. Ready to reclaim your spark in midlife? This free guide will help you wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like yourself once more.

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.

With Peace & Love,

Renee

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Welcome to Day 1 of the Midlife Reset Challenge: Your Comeback Starts Now

Listen to the First Episode of the Midlife Made Easier Podcast: Day 1 – Midlife Reset: Why This Isn’t a Crisis—It’s Your Comeback

Hello, beautiful friend, and welcome!

I am thrilled you’re here for Day 1 of the Midlife Reset Challenge at Midlife Made Easier. Over the next 10 days, we will walk together about reclaiming your joy, reviving your confidence, and reigniting your energy.

If you’ve been feeling a little blah lately, maybe even invisible or stuck on autopilot, this is your invitation to pause, breathe, and remember that midlife isn’t the end of anything.

It’s the beginning of everything.

Why I Created This Challenge

I wrote The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence, & Joy for three deeply personal reasons:

  1. I was done with the “midlife crisis” narrative.
    Let’s face it—midlife does come with change. But instead of a crisis, I began to see it as a chance to reset, reimagine, and refocus on me for the first time in decades. That shift was powerful.
  2. So many of you were asking, “What’s next?”
    After years of caregiving, career juggling, and putting others first, many of us feel disconnected from our purpose. This challenge is your space to ask big questions and craft new answers.
  3. I wanted to offer something practical and doable.
    It’s not another overwhelming 300-page guide but a clear, heartfelt blueprint you can use starting now.

Midlife is not a time to shrink. It’s a time to expand, explore, grow, and rediscover what lights you up.
And let’s be honest: midlife women are strong, resourceful, and wildly capable—but we are also among the most overlooked in wellness, healthcare, and media.
That ends here.

What You Can Expect This Week

Each day, you’ll get a new blog post full of real talk, encouragement, and tools to help you feel more energized and empowered. Whether you’re entering your 40s, 50s, or 60s—this is your reset. Your space. Your comeback.

✨ Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a pivotal point. And you’re allowed to pivot boldly.

Today’s Reset Reflection

Take a few quiet moments and ask yourself:

What made me say “yes” to this challenge? What am I ready to release—and what am I prepared to reclaim?

Jot your answers in a journal, your workbook, or in the comments. We’d love to hear from you.

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👉 Download your copy of The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy It has a free printable workbook and four weeks of email support to help you stay focused, encouraged, and aligned with your goals.

📩 Be sure to share this post with someone you love. We all deserve a joyful reset.

💬 Leave a comment below: What are you hoping to gain from your midlife reset?

📅 Join us tomorrow for Day 2 of the Midlife Reset Challenge, when we’ll dive into The Power of the Midlife Pivot—and how changing direction can be your best decision.

Until then, take care of yourself and each other.

With Peace & Love,
Renee

Midlife Made Easier: Essential Resources for Reinventing Yourself

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The 3-Day Midlife Reboot Challenge

Reignite Your Passion, Purpose & Possibilities

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The World Is Ageist—How to Navigate a Society That Thinks You’re Irrelevant

I was already behind. At least, that’s how it felt.

After my divorce, I returned to work, believing that my degree and the business my ex-husband and I built would count for something. But no one saw my years of running a household, raising five kids, and managing a business as “real” work experience. Suddenly, I was the oldest one in every room I entered. And now, in my 60s, that feeling hasn’t gone away—it’s only intensified.

The world is ageist, no doubt about it. But here’s the truth: just because society tries to write us off doesn’t mean we have to accept it. We have value. We have wisdom. And we have the right to take up space.

So, how do we navigate a world that constantly tries to make us feel invisible? Here are three ways to resist ageism and reclaim your relevance.

1. Own Your Experience—It’s More Valuable Than You Think

Years of running a household? Leadership, multitasking, financial management, crisis resolution, and negotiation skills all rolled into one. Decades of work in a field that’s now “too young” for you? That means you know and insights that can’t be learned overnight. Don’t let outdated hiring practices or societal biases make you question your worth. Speak up about your experience with confidence. You’ve earned it.

2. Keep Learning and Stay Curious

One of the biggest stereotypes about aging is that we stop evolving. Prove them wrong. Stay curious, learn new skills, and adapt to change. Whether it’s technology, a new career path, or a personal passion, embracing growth keeps you engaged and clarifies that age does not equal stagnation.

3. Surround Yourself with People Who See Your Worth

You don’t have to convince everyone of your value. Some people will always underestimate you. The key is to build a community of people who respect, support, and uplift you. Find mentors, peers, and friends who celebrate your wisdom instead of dismissing it.

You are not invisible. You are not irrelevant. And you are certainly not too old to take up space in any room.

Share this post with someone you love. Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.

With peace and love,
Renee

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Rediscover Your Passions: A Journey to Reignite Your Joy

Midlife is the perfect time to reconnect with what lights you up—your passions. Over the years, it’s easy to put your dreams and hobbies on hold while caring for others or handling life’s demands. But now, it’s your turn. Rediscovering your passions not only brings joy but can also ignite a renewed sense of purpose.

Maybe it’s been years since you picked up a paintbrush or dusted off your guitar. Or perhaps you’ve always dreamed of trying something new, like photography or writing. Midlife is the ideal time to explore those interests—old favorites or fresh pursuits.

Why Rediscovering Your Passions Matters

Engaging in activities that bring us joy makes us feel more fulfilled, energized, and connected to our true selves. Rediscovering passions can also lead to personal growth, boost self-esteem, and create new opportunities. And guess what? It’s not about being perfect or “good enough” at something—it’s about the process and the joy of creating something meaningful.

Taking the time to tap into your creative side or revisit past hobbies can lead to new friends, a sense of accomplishment, and a deeper understanding of yourself. These passions offer a healthy escape from everyday stress and can be therapeutic.

How to Get Started

  • Reflect on what used to excite you or what you’ve always wanted to try.
  • Start small—whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned pro doesn’t matter. Take it one step at a time.
  • Make it a priority to schedule time for these activities, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day.
  • Be patient with yourself. Rediscovering your passions is a journey, not a race.

Rediscovering your passions is not just about filling your time—it’s about filling your life with purpose, joy, and inspiration. It’s a reminder that there’s always room for growth and exploration at any stage of life.

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With Peace & Love,

Renee

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Rediscovering Your Joy: How to Make Midlife Your Best Life Yet

You have heard this before, I am sure. Midlife is often seen as a crossroads—a time when many women pause to reflect on where we have been and consider where we’re going. While this chapter can feel daunting, it’s also an incredible opportunity to rediscover your passions, realign with your values, and embrace the best version of yourself.

Here are some powerful ways to make midlife your best life yet:

1. Reevaluate Your Priorities

Take a step back and assess what truly matters to you. This is the perfect time to let go of obligations that no longer serve you and focus on pursuits that bring you joy and fulfillment.

2. Invest in Your Health

Your physical and mental health are the foundation of everything. Midlife is an excellent time to adopt healthy habits like regular exercise, mindful eating, and stress management. Small changes can yield significant results, helping you feel more vital and energized.

3. Cultivate Meaningful Relationships

Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Deepening connections with family and friends or forming new relationships can bring a renewed sense of belonging and joy.

4. Explore New Passions

Midlife is the perfect time to try something new. Whether taking up a hobby, traveling to a dream destination, or pursuing a long-held goal, permit yourself to explore and grow.

5. Embrace Your Inner Strength

Life experience is one of your greatest assets. Celebrate how far you’ve come and trust in your resilience. Each challenge you’ve overcome has prepared you for this exciting new chapter.

Ready to Embrace Your Next Chapter?

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This free guide is your ultimate companion to navigating the next chapter of your life with grace and purpose.

Why Midlife is Your Moment:
Midlife isn’t the end—it’s a powerful new beginning filled with possibilities. Whether pursuing a career shift, discovering new passions, or reigniting your inner spark, this guide equips you with the tools and inspiration to redefine who you are and what you truly want.

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Midlife isn’t the end—it’s a brand-new beginning. Let’s make it extraordinary!

With Peace & Love,

Renee

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How to Choose the Perfect Host Gift for the Holidays

It is that time of year again; the holiday season is full of invitations to cozy gatherings, festive dinners, and holiday parties. If you are lucky enough to be on the guest list, showing gratitude with a thoughtful host gift is always a kind gesture. Not sure what to bring? Here is a quick guide to choosing the perfect host gift that shows appreciation and leaves a lasting impression.

1. Think About Their Personality and Interests

The best host gifts feel personal. Before shopping, consider the host’s personality, hobbies, and preferences. Do they enjoy cooking, wine, or cozy home decor? For example:

  • The Foodie: Consider gourmet olive oils, unique seasonings, or artisanal chocolates.
  • The Wine Lover: A bottle of wine or a stylish wine opener set is always appreciated.
  • The Homebody: Candles, cozy blankets, or handmade soaps add warmth to their space.

2. Choose Something Useful

Choose something your host can enjoy during the holidays or throughout the year. Practical gifts can still feel luxurious if they are high quality, such as:

  • A set of high-quality dish towels: Practical yet stylish, a fresh set of kitchen towels can brighten any kitchen.
  • A pretty cheeseboard or serving platter: They can use it that night or at future gatherings.
  • A holiday-scented candle: A festive fragrance can instantly add warmth and cheer to any home.

3. Opt for Quality, Not Quantity

A single high-quality item can be more meaningful than a basket of smaller items. Some ideas include:

  • A small batch of local honey or maple syrup
  • Handmade pottery or a small decorative bowl
  • A set of artisanal coffee or tea

4. Add a Personal Touch

A little personalization goes a long way. Some ideas:

  • Handwritten note: Include a heartfelt thank-you for the invitation.
  • Seasonal wrapping: Wrap your gift in seasonal paper or tie it with a festive ribbon to add that holiday touch.
  • Homemade goodies: A box of homemade cookies or mini loaves is a sweet gesture if you are a baker.

5. Stick to Classic Holiday Gifts

If you are not sure what your host would prefer, classic holiday-themed gifts rarely miss the mark:

  • Ornaments: Choose something neutral, like a simple glass ornament, to blend well with their decor.
  • Holiday greenery: A small poinsettia or rosemary plant makes a festive addition to any home.
  • Holiday-themed dish towels or oven mitts: Functional and festive, they bring holiday cheer to the kitchen.

6. Don’t Forget Presentation

An elegantly wrapped gift shows thoughtfulness and care. Try using a reusable bag, a pretty ribbon, or a decorative tag. Presentation counts!

7. Avoid Anything Too Personal or High-Maintenance

Items like fragrance diffusers, artwork, or anything that requires a significant commitment might feel overwhelming for your host. Stick to classic, thoughtful, and low-maintenance gifts they can easily use or enjoy.

Choosing the perfect host gift does not have to be a stressful experience. With these tips, you will find something your host will genuinely appreciate, showing your gratitude and making your holiday a little brighter. Happy gift-giving and enjoy your celebrations!

With & Love,

Renee

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The Art of Writing a Letter to Your Future Self

No matter where you are on your midlife journey, it is easy to get caught up in the chaos and lose sight of your aspirations, dreams, and personal growth. It’s important to pause and reflect on our journey, which can be incredibly valuable. One powerful way to do this is by writing a letter to your future self. This simple yet profound act lets you capture your thoughts, emotions, and aspirations, providing a unique perspective that can offer guidance, inspiration, and insight in the coming years. This blog post will explore how to write a letter to your future self and why it is essential.

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Step 1: Set the scene; find a quiet and comfortable space to focus and reflect without distractions. This could be a cozy corner in your favorite cafe, a serene natural spot, or simply a quiet room in your home. Bring pen and paper or open a new document on your computer – whichever method feels most natural.

Step 2: Reflect on the present before you start writing; take some time to reflect on your current circumstances, emotions, and aspirations. Consider what you hope to achieve, your challenges, and what lessons you have learned. Allow yourself to be honest and reflective – there are no right or wrong answers here.

Step 3: Write from the heart; it is time to begin writing your letter. Start by addressing your future self in a warm and friendly manner. You might want to start with a simple greeting like, “Dear Future Me” or “To My Future Self.” Then, let your thoughts and emotions flow freely onto the page. Share your hopes, fears, dreams, and aspirations. Reflect on your lessons and the person you aspire to become. Be open, honest, and vulnerable – this letter is for your eyes only, so there is no need to hold back.

Step 4: Express gratitude as you write; take a moment to express gratitude for the experiences, people, and opportunities that have shaped you into who you are today. Acknowledge the challenges you have overcome and the growth you have experienced. Gratitude is a powerful tool for cultivating a positive mindset and fostering resilience in adversity.

Step 5: Seal with Intent Once you have finished writing your letter, take a moment to read it over and reflect on the journey it represents. Then, seal it in an envelope or save it in a secure place so you can revisit it. Set an intention to open and read your letter at a specific time—whether it is a year from now, five years from now, or even further down the road.

Why It is Important: Writing a letter to your future self is more than just a creative exercise – it is a powerful tool for personal growth, reflection, and self-discovery. Here are a few reasons why it is essential to write a letter to your future self:

  1. Reflection: Writing allows you to reflect on your journey, clarify your goals, and identify areas for growth and improvement.
  2. Perspective: Reading your letter in the future provides a unique perspective on your past self, allowing you to see how far you have come and how much you have grown.
  3. Motivation: Your letter can serve as a source of inspiration and motivation, reminding you of your goals, aspirations, and the person you aspire to become.
  4. Connection: Writing a letter to your future self creates a powerful connection between your past, present, and future selves, fostering a sense of continuity and self-awareness.

You can write a letter to yourself and store it on a site like  Future Me; you can select when you want the letter to be sent to you. Writing a letter to your future self is a simple yet profound act that can impact your personal growth and development. By reflecting on your journey, expressing gratitude, and setting intentions for the Future, you can gain valuable insights, cultivate resilience, and nurture a deeper connection with yourself. So why wait? Pick up your pen and start writing – your future self will thank you.

With Peace & Love,

Renee

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The Best Books for Managing Depression and Anxiety

Dealing with depression and anxiety can be challenging; I know because I have been dealing with them both for over a decade; one of the strategies I have found to be very helpful for me and for the clients I serve is reading; books can be powerful tools in coping with these mental health issues. They offer insights, strategies, and comfort that can help individuals like us navigate these difficult experiences. Here are four highly recommended books that I think can provide valuable support and guidance to help you craft a plan that works for you; reading about your illness may not be all you need; I have included the link to Psychology Today Find a therapist, if you would like to locate a therapist in your city that works in person and remotely. As you journey through midlife, you might find that the tools you used in the past to manage your mental health no longer work; it is totally okay to search for new tools so that you can continue living a life you love.

“The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook” by Edmund J. Bourne

This comprehensive workbook is a go-to resource for managing anxiety and phobias. It offers practical techniques, cognitive behavioral strategies, and exercises to help readers understand and overcome anxiety. The book also includes information on relaxation techniques, lifestyle changes, and coping skills.

“Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy” by David D. Burns

Dr. Burns’ book is a classic cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) classic. It provides readers with practical tools to combat depression and improve their mood. The book outlines the principles of CBT and offers practical advice on changing negative thinking patterns and behaviors.

“The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness” by Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn

This book combines the principles of mindfulness with cognitive therapy to help individuals break free from the cycle of depression. It offers guided meditations, mindfulness practices, and cognitive strategies to cultivate self-awareness and acceptance.

“Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope” by Johann Hari

In this insightful book, Hari explores the societal and environmental factors that contribute to depression and anxiety. He argues that many cases of depression are not solely biological but are also influenced by social and cultural factors. The book offers a compassionate and hopeful perspective on overcoming depression.

These books offer valuable insights, practical advice, and compassionate support for those dealing with depression and anxiety. Whether you’re looking for coping strategies, understanding, or a sense of hope, these books can be valuable companions on your journey to mental health and well-being. Creating a plan to assist with your depression and anxiety before episodes occur is crucial for several reasons. Proactively developing coping mechanisms and support systems can help reduce the severity and duration of depressive and anxious episodes.

By having a plan, you can better manage your symptoms and maintain a higher quality of life. Additionally, understanding your triggers and learning effective techniques to address them can empower you to take control of your mental health. Preparing in advance also ensures that you have the necessary resources and support when needed most, helping you navigate challenging times with greater resilience and confidence. Remember, you do not have to take this journey alone; talk to family and friends about how you feel, and if that does not work, seek out the assistance of a professional therapist; you can research for one by checking out psychologytoday.com, that is where I found my therapist, and she is amazing. 

With Peace & Love,

Renee

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Five Ways to Let Go of Being a Victim and Gain Control Over Your Life

      Listen to Episode the Welcome to Your Life Podcast Episode 58: Five Ways to Let Go of Being a Victim and Gain Control Over Your Life

Our new E-Book and Workbook selection from The Courageous Woman’s Book Club is entitled The Courageous Woman’s Guide to Stop Thinking Like a Victim.  This book was difficult for me to complete; as I worked through the exercises myself, I began to release the mind demons holding me captive. Finally, I realized that my thinking like a victim had helped me settle into my role as a casualty of my life way too comfortably, and it cost me money, time, relationships, and dignity. So, I wrote this book and workbook to help other women reclaim their lives from the trauma, disappointment, and betrayal that threatened to take them out.

     My question to you is, is a victim mindset keeping you from living up to your full potential and delaying your life’s purpose?  Do you feel that people get in your way and are plotting to keep you inside your current situation?  Do you feel because of past circumstances, you are not meant to succeed? Or have you been let down so often by others that you have lost your self-confidence?  I am here to tell you that despite the frustrations, setbacks, and the lack of trust you may have in others, you can change how you think and create the life you want to live.

     Thinking like a victim is not an isolated event; it can negatively permeate every area of your life, including your career, family, and other relationships. It can have a destructive impact on your ability to succeed at anything and trap you in a cycle of unhappiness and pain.   Besides these soul-crushing effects of thinking like a victim, there is another negative consequence I would like you to consider. When you think that you’re always the victim, you might avoid taking responsibility for anything, and if that is the case, you also feel like there’s nothing you can do to solve your challenges.

     Today I want to share with you five strategies that you can start using now to take back your life by taking responsibility for your situation and gaining the power to control how you react to your circumstances! Remember, change is scary even when trying to do something positive in your life, so let’s be brave; acknowledge that tackling your mindset is not easy, but it is necessary for a powerful life.    

     When you decide to try these strategies to dislodge your negative thinking and uproot your feelings of being a victim, you will set yourself free, and no one can do that for you except you.  These strategies will help you to increase your awareness and stop feeling sorry for yourself. 

  • Increase your awareness. if you think like a victim, you cannot help but feel sorry for yourself.  Feeling sorry for yourself is a heavy emotional weight to carry each day it drains your energy and blinds you to the positive things in your life.  What you are aware of, you can control and change. You will become more intentional in how you live.  When you feel your thinking steering you towards a thought of “why does this always happen to me,” you can recognize the belief and change course.
  •    Stop waiting for someone to rescue you. If you have followed me for any time, you know I believe in creating a village to support you while you are on your healing journey, but you shouldn’t expect your support system to solve all your issues.      If you’re bound by a victim mindset, you may be searching for someone to save you. However, this strategy can lead to more hurt feelings.  So, while it may be tempting to turn to your friends, family, coworkers, or neighbors for help.  It is unfair to put the weight of your recovery on the shoulders of others.   You might believe that you cannot change without the assistance of other people.   The truth is that you have the strength and power to change your own thoughts, but it will require you to recognize your inner courage and use it to change how you think. No one else can do this for you.
  • Be sure to take responsibility.   Don’t take the easy way out of blaming your circumstances on other people.  To heal this type of mindset, you must take control and acknowledge your own responsibility.  Taking responsibility for how you think will move you one step closer to eliminating the victim mindset. This is how you take back your power and your life.
  •  Try Prayer or meditation.  Prayer and meditation is a powerful tool.  It can calm the anxiety that change often brings and help you find peace. It can also help you turn inward, increase your self-awareness, and see your victim mindset.  Both will help you to realize how your mind and body react to negativity or stress. This allows you to focus your energy and change your thought process.  Now you can become an observer, find closure, and stop the victim cycle.
  • Discover and implement your favorite stress-relieving activity.  Stress only perpetuates thinking like a victim.  Meditation is one option I help my clients initiate for coping with stress. You may want to try yoga, swimming, running, walking, boxing, or other types of exercise. In addition, you can manage your stress by doing hobbies you love, such as knitting, reading, or drawing.  Managing your stress will empower you and help you create a new mindset that is stronger and healthier. 

     You can reclaim your power as you experiment with different stress-relieving activity.  In time you will learn how to avoid or diminish negative thinking in your personal space.  Your first response will not be to blame others, your luck, or your circumstances.  Instead, you will manage your emotions with calm and ease.  It is time to regain your power.

With Peace and Love,

Renee

Hi guys, my name is Renee.  I am a Certified Coach and Yoga teacher host of the award-winning Welcome to Your Life Podcast and the Courageous Woman’s Book Club founder.      Thank you so much for checking out today’s post.

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