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What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You

Listen to: What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You

Hello and welcome to Midlife Made Easier, a supportive space where midlife women prioritize their healing, reclaim their power, and build a life they love. This is your place to take charge of your well-being, find your voice, and feel seen, supported, and strong.

Before we dive in, be sure to grab your free guide: Easing Into Fitness: Your Gentle Start to Fitness in Midlife. It’s a simple, supportive resource to help you lose weight, manage blood sugar levels, increase mobility, and regain your confidence.

In today’s blog post, we’re talking about something many of us have been taught to avoid or bury jealousy.

For many of us who grew up in faith-based homes, jealousy came with warnings and biblical consequences. And if you’re someone who loves lifting others—someone who claps loudly for her friends, it can be deeply uncomfortable to acknowledge jealousy when it rises in your own chest.

I’ve felt it too. I’ve felt jealous toward couples whose marriages are still thriving, while mine didn’t last. I’ve thought about yoga teachers who can still teach multiple classes a week, while my arthritis decides whether I’m moving or sitting that day. I’ve felt it toward coaches releasing programs, books, and podcasts, while I’m still finding my rhythm in this chapter of life.

But here’s the gift of midlife: we get better at telling ourselves the truth.
We grow wiser. We become more compassionate with ourselves. And instead of letting jealousy consume us, we can sit with it, examine it, and let it guide us toward healing and growth.

If jealousy isn’t an issue for you, I’m truly happy for you. But if you’re like me, still growing, discovering, rebuilding, I want to share four powerful ways to examine your jealousy and uncover what it’s trying to teach you.

1. Jealousy Shows You What You Still Want

Jealousy isn’t just a negative emotion; it’s information. It highlights desires that may have gone quiet under the weight of responsibility, heartbreak, or exhaustion. When you feel jealous of someone else’s marriage, success, or freedom, it may be pointing you toward something you still long for. Instead of judging yourself, ask: “What desire is this awakening in me?” Sometimes the ache is really a longing waiting for permission to be felt.

2. Jealousy Helps You Notice Where You Feel Limited

Jealousy often arises when you feel stuck. Maybe your body can’t do what it used to.
Maybe time feels short. Maybe your confidence is shaky.

Jealousy can reveal places where you feel restricted, physically, emotionally, financially, or energetically. By acknowledging the limitation without shame, you can start exploring solutions, support, or even a new mindset. Ask yourself: “Where do I feel held back, and what small shift could help me move forward?”

3. Jealousy Invites You to Honor Your Grief

In midlife, we carry both victories and losses. Some dreams didn’t happen. Some relationships ended. Some abilities changed. Some seasons closed before we were ready.

Jealousy often arises when we see someone living something we’ve had to let go of or never experienced. This isn’t weakness; it’s grief asking to be acknowledged. Ask: “Is this jealousy… or is it unspoken grief?” When you name grief, it stops controlling you.

4. Jealousy Pushes You Toward Growth

Jealousy can be a compass. It can push you to try something new, improve a skill, take better care of your body, heal old wounds, or dream again.

When you approach jealousy with curiosity instead of judgment, it becomes a teacher—not an enemy. Try asking: “What is this moment inviting me to grow into?” You might be surprised by the answer.

My friend, jealousy doesn’t make you weak, petty, or ungrateful.
It makes you human. And in midlife, we have earned the right to examine our emotions honestly, lovingly, and with grace, and take action to create a life we love.

That’s all I have for you today. If this post resonated with you, please share it with someone you love and let us know in the comments: What has jealousy been trying to teach you lately?

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Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
With Peace & Love,
Renee

Check out other empowering resources below to support your midlife journey:

📘 FREE – The Midlife Reboot Workbook
 Feeling stuck in the middle of life? You’re not alone. Download this uplifting and straightforward guide to reconnect with yourself and take the first step toward a life that feels entirely your own. Download the FREE workbook here

🎁 Need a little inspiration you can hold onto?
 Explore the ‘It’s Not Over Until I Win’ Collection from Renee & Rubys, a bold and beautiful line of journals, mugs, tees, and gifts that remind you (or someone you love) that your story isn’t over – it’s just getting good.  🛍️ Enjoy 20% off your entire order with code ENJOY at checkout! Click here to shop the collection and spark your daily inspiration

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Empowering everyday people through faith, wellness, and real-life resilience. We love supporting our blog family with helpful tools and resources designed to make everyday life more intentional and rewarding. Grab These Free Resources: Created With YOU in Mind:


 Empowered Faith Media – Christ-centered devotionals and resources to help you grow in faith even in an imperfect world. 40-Day Faith Devotional – Daily scriptures and journal prompts to grow your faith and nourish your spirit.

 Dog Talk Radio – Heartfelt advice and tips to build a lasting bond with your pup, one tail wag at a time. 10 Essential Dog Tips for New & Older Dog Owners: Must-know advice for new and experienced dog owners alike:

  The Diabetic Toolbox – Simple, sustainable tools to manage blood sugar, eat well, and create healthy habits without being overwhelmed.  Is Your Hunger Real? Quiz + Bonus eBook  Learn to manage stress, improve sleep, and decode emotional hunger.

  Midlife Made Easier – Encouragement and resources for women navigating midlife with purpose, joy, and grace.   Midlife Life Reboot Workbook:  Gain clarity, reset your goals, and step confidently into your next chapter.
 
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How to Cope with the Loss of Friends as Life Changes

Hello and welcome to Midlife Made Easier, a supportive space where midlife women prioritize their healing, reclaim their power, and build a life they love.

This is your place to take charge of your well-being, find your voice, and feel seen, supported, and strong. Here, we shine a light on the unique challenges women face in midlife, with compassionate guidance, real-life strategies, and inspiration to help you thrive, not just survive.


 Life is full of transitions, moving to a new city, navigating a divorce, receiving a promotion, or simply growing into a new version of yourself. These changes often bring shifts in relationships, and sometimes, that means losing friends. It’s not easy, but it’s a natural part of life’s evolution.

Today, we’re exploring how to navigate the loss of friendships when your life undergoes changes and how to approach this new chapter with grace and resilience.

Why Friendships Change

Friendships evolve for many reasons. As you grow, your priorities, values, and goals may shift, creating a natural distance between you and those who no longer align with your path. Life events, such as moving, changing careers, or entering a new relationship, can also make it challenging to stay connected.

And while these changes can feel lonely, they’re also opportunities to align yourself with people who encourage your growth, joy, and peace.

My Story

A few years ago, I went through a tough season. I was getting a divorce. My children had all left the home, and empty nest syndrome hit me harder than I thought it would.  My social circle, once filled with a couple of friends and weekend gatherings, suddenly felt foreign. Some people quietly drifted away, unsure of how to handle my “new normal.” I remember one evening, sitting on my couch, wondering if I had done something wrong.

But over time, I realized it wasn’t about fault, it was about growth. My life had shifted, and so had my energy. As I learned to stand on my own again, new people entered my world—women who understood my journey, who encouraged my healing, and who celebrated my small victories. Losing those friendships hurt, but it also made space for relationships that were aligned with the woman I was becoming.

How to Cope with the Loss of Friends

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
 It’s okay to grieve the loss of a friendship. Feel the sadness, disappointment, and even confusion. Journaling, therapy, or heart-to-heart talks with a trusted friend can help you process these emotions.

2. Focus on Self-Discovery
 Who are you in this new season of life? What makes you feel alive, peaceful, and connected? Take time to rediscover yourself, try a new hobby, revisit an old passion, or spend quiet moments reflecting.

3. Cultivate New Relationships
 Be open to forming new friendships that match your current chapter. Join local meetups, book clubs, or online groups that share your interests. Building new connections takes time, but each one adds a little more light to your journey.

4. Stay Open to Reconnection
 Not all endings are permanent. Sometimes, people grow apart and then come back together when the timing is right. Keep an open heart, you never know who might reappear down the road.

5. Practice Gratitude
 Even friendships that end have value. Reflect on what those people brought into your life: the laughter, the memories, the lessons. Gratitude helps you release pain and make room for joy.

Embrace Your Next Chapter

Transitioning through life’s changes is never easy, but it’s also an invitation to grow and redefine what truly matters. You are not the same person you were five or ten years ago—and that’s something to celebrate.

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  • You’ve tried starting before, but you got overwhelmed and quit after a week.
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Well, My Friend…

That’s all I have for you today. Remember, losing friends doesn’t mean you’ve failed; it means you’re growing. 

Please share this post with someone you love who might need a little encouragement today. And let us know in the comments: How do you cope with change in your life?

 Download your free guide: Easing Into Fitness: Your Gentle Start to Fitness in Midlife.

If you’re ready to wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like you again, this workbook is for you.

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.

With Peace & Love,
Renee

Check out other empowering resources below to support your midlife journey:

📘 FREE – The Midlife Reboot Workbook: Feeling stuck in the middle of life? You’re not alone. Download this uplifting and straightforward guide to reconnect with yourself and take the first step toward a life that feels entirely your own.
📥 Download the FREE workbook here

🎁 Need a little inspiration you can hold onto?  Explore the ‘It’s Not Over Until I Win’ Collection from Renee & Rubys, a bold and beautiful line of journals, mugs, tees, and gifts that remind you (or someone you love) that your story isn’t over – it’s just getting good.  🛍️ Enjoy 20% off your entire order with code ENJOY at checkout!   Click here to shop the collection and spark your daily inspiration

Discover the AJ3M Media Blog Family: Support, Educate, Empower
Empowering everyday people through faith, wellness, and real-life resilience. We love supporting our blog family with helpful tools and resources designed to make everyday life more intentional and rewarding. Grab These Free Resources: Created With YOU in Mind:
📖 Empowered Faith Media – Christ-centered devotionals and resources to help you grow in faith even in an imperfect world. 40-Day Faith Devotional – Daily scriptures and journal prompts to grow your faith and nourish your spirit.

🐶 Dog Talk Radio – Heartfelt advice and tips to build a lasting bond with your pup, one tail wag at a time. 10 Essential Dog Tips for New & Older Dog Owners: Must-know advice for new and experienced dog owners alike:

🍎 The Diabetic Toolbox – Simple, sustainable tools to manage blood sugar, eat well, and create healthy habits without being overwhelmed.  Is Your Hunger Real? Quiz + Bonus eBook  Learn to manage stress, improve sleep, and decode emotional hunger.

🌿 Midlife Made Easier – Encouragement and resources for women navigating midlife with purpose, joy, and grace.   Midlife Life Reboot Workbook:  Gain clarity, reset your goals, and step confidently into your next chapter.

💪 Surviving & Thriving Single Parenthood – Strength, support, and self-care strategies for single moms raising thriving kids.  The Ultimate Self-Care Guide for Single Moms: Prioritize Your Well-being and Parent with Confidence and Purpose.

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Gray Divorce After 50: Why It’s Happening & 3 Steps to Heal a Broken Heart

Hello and welcome to the Midlife Made Easier, a supportive space where midlife women prioritize their healing, reclaim their power, and build a life they love. This is your place to take charge of your well-being, find your voice, and feel seen, supported, and strong.

I want to share a free resource that might help you on your journey: the Midlife Reboot Workbook. It’s designed to help you reset, refocus, and reclaim your joy in this next chapter of life.

My Story: Divorce, Starting Over, and Healing

I am going through my own gray divorce. After decades of marriage, I suddenly found myself facing the unimaginable, starting over in midlife. It was more than just dividing up our stuff and having to move back home; it felt like losing a part of my identity.

At first, the heartbreak was all-consuming. I cried daily, my body ached, and I even struggled with my health. Stress showed up as exhaustion and anxiety. There were days I didn’t recognize the woman in the mirror. But slowly, I began to heal. I committed to taking care of both my physical and mental health, one step at a time. I started walking every morning, journaling my feelings, eating healthier meals, and leaning on a few trusted friends. Over time, I realized divorce wasn’t the end; it was the beginning of a new chapter.

My healing journey gave me a new perspective: midlife is not too late to start again. In fact, it can be the perfect time to step into your power and create a life that finally feels aligned with who you are today.

What Is a Gray Divorce?

“Gray divorce” refers to the rising trend of couples over 50 ending long-term marriages. These separations often come after 20, 30, or even 40 years together. While divorce is always painful, the midlife version can feel especially overwhelming because lives are so deeply intertwined, emotionally, financially, and socially.

Why Is Gray Divorce Happening?

Here are three key reasons gray divorce is becoming more common:

  1. Empty Nest & Identity Shifts
     Without the shared focus of raising children, couples sometimes realize they’ve drifted apart and no longer share the same values or dreams.
  2. Long-Term Dissatisfaction
     Midlife often brings clarity. Patterns of neglect, lack of intimacy, or unresolved conflict that were once tolerated become impossible to ignore.
  3. Greater Independence
     Today, many women are financially independent and living longer, healthier lives. With new confidence and options, they feel empowered to pursue happiness on their own terms.

The Pain of a Broken Heart

Regardless of who initiated the divorce, the grief is real. Sadness, loneliness, and even physical pain are common. These feelings can interfere with your health and daily life if left unaddressed. But healing is possible, and it begins with intentional action.

3 Crucial Steps to Healing After a Gray Divorce

1. Remove Physical & Emotional Reminders

Clear out mementos, photos, and digital connections. By creating physical space, you give your heart and mind room to heal.

2. Prioritize Self-Care

Instead of numbing the pain, nourish your body and soul. Eat well, move daily, try new hobbies, and surround yourself with supportive people.

3. Prepare for Encounters

Your first inclination might be to confront or berate, but if you run into your ex, keep the interaction polite, brief, and calm. Practicing composure honors your dignity and protects your energy.

Healing Is Your Midlife Superpower

Healing a broken heart isn’t easy, but it’s possible. I’m living proof that you can move through the grief, rebuild your health, and come out stronger. Divorce doesn’t define you; it opens the door to rediscovering who you truly are, and please remember, something I have to remind myself of on occasion, midlife is not too late; you are just getting started.

Well, my friend, that is all I have for you today. Please share this post with someone you love. Let us know in the comments how you’re navigating midlife transitions and what helps you feel supported. 

With Peace & Love,
Renee


Ready to Reclaim Your Spark in Midlife?  Free guide The Midlife Reboot Workbook
If you’re prepared to wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like you again, this workbook is for you. Until next time, take care of yourself and each other. 

✨ Check out other empowering resources below to support your midlife journey:

📘 FREE – The Midlife Reboot Workbook
 Feeling stuck in the middle of life? You’re not alone. Download this uplifting and straightforward guide to reconnect with yourself and take the first step toward a life that feels entirely your own.
📥 Download the FREE workbook here

🎁 Need a little inspiration you can hold onto?
 Explore the ‘It’s Not Over Until I Win’ Collection from Renee & Rubys, a bold and beautiful line of journals, mugs, tees, and gifts that remind you (or someone you love) that your story isn’t over – it’s just getting good.  Enjoy 20% off your entire order with code ENJOY at checkout! Click here to shop the collection and spark your daily inspiration

Discover the AJ3M Media Blog Family: Support, Educate, Empower
Empowering everyday people through faith, wellness, and real-life resilience. We love supporting our blog family with helpful tools and resources designed to make everyday life more intentional and rewarding. Grab These Free Resources: Created With YOU in Mind:

📖 Empowered Faith Media – Christ-centered devotionals and resources to help you grow in faith even in an imperfect world. 40-Day Faith Devotional – Daily scriptures and journal prompts to grow your faith and nourish your spirit.

🐶 Dog Talk Radio – Heartfelt advice and tips to build a lasting bond with your pup, one tail wag at a time. 10 Essential Dog Tips for New & Older Dog Owners: Must-know advice for new and experienced dog owners alike:

🍎 The Diabetic Toolbox – Simple, sustainable tools to manage blood sugar, eat well, and create healthy habits without being overwhelmed.  Is Your Hunger Real? Quiz + Bonus eBook  Learn to manage stress, improve sleep, and decode emotional hunger.

🌿 Midlife Made Easier – Encouragement and resources for women navigating midlife with purpose, joy, and grace.   Midlife Life Reboot Workbook:  Gain clarity, reset your goals, and step confidently into your next chapter.

💪 Surviving & Thriving Single Parenthood – Strength, support, and self-care strategies for single moms raising thriving kids.  The Ultimate Self-Care Guide for Single Moms: Prioritize Your Well-being and Parent with Confidence and Purpose

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How to Create a Vision Board That Works: Focus on One Goal at a Time in Midlife

Hello and welcome to the Midlife Made Easier blog, a supportive space where midlife women prioritize their healing, reclaim their power, and build a life they love.

Here, we shine a light on the unique health challenges women face in midlife, especially heart health and high blood pressure, with compassionate guidance, real-life strategies, and inspiration to help you thrive, not just survive. This is your place to take charge of your well-being, find your voice, and feel seen, supported, and strong.

✨ Before we dive in, grab your copy of our workbook: The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy,  your step-by-step guide to setting aligned goals, including building your vision board with purpose. ✨

Why Vision Boards Still Matter, Especially Now

You’ve likely heard of vision boards before, where you cut out pretty images and powerful words, and place them on a corkboard to “manifest your dream life.” But if you’ve ever tried this only to feel overwhelmed or discouraged, you’re not alone.

Here’s the truth: trying to manifest everything at once can lead to burnout, not breakthroughs.

That’s why the key to an effective vision board in midlife is focusing on one meaningful goal at a time, one that aligns with your current values, needs, and energy.

A Personal Insight: The Year I Needed a Reset

A few years ago, I created a vision board with ten goals: career, health, relationships, travel, finances, and so on. It looked beautiful, but it also sat untouched on my desk. Nothing changed.

Then life threw me a curveball, a spike in blood pressure that scared me into a full stop.

That year, I created a new board with just one goal: lower my blood pressure naturally and feel energized again. Everything I added, including walking trails, healthy meals, calming quotes, and the phrase “strong heart, peaceful mind,”  supported that one vision.

And you know what? It worked. Because it wasn’t just a board, it was a daily reminder to act with intention, every single day.

How to Create a Focused Vision Board in Midlife

  1. Choose One Clear Goal
     What’s one area of your life that feels out of sync right now? Health? Confidence? Connection? Choose the one that matters most to you, and make that the center of your board.
  2. Gather with Intention
     Collect images, words, and symbols that reflect how you want to feel when this goal is achieved. Don’t worry about aesthetics,  go for meaning over perfection.
  3. Display It Where You’ll See It Daily
     Your board isn’t decoration,  it’s a tool. Put it where it reminds you to act, reflect, and stay grounded.
  4. Pair It With Action
     Visualization is powerful, but pairing it with simple daily steps is where the magic happens. (P.S. That’s exactly what our workbook helps you do.)
     👉 Click here to grab The Midlife Reset Workbook and start turning your vision into action.

Why One Goal at a Time Works (Especially in Midlife)

Focusing your energy on a single transformation helps you avoid decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm. When you concentrate your intention, your results amplify, and that feeling of progress? It builds momentum that spills into every area of your life.

And if your current focus is healing your body, restoring your peace, or reigniting your spark, you’re exactly where you need to be.

Let Your Vision Guide You  Without Pressure

There’s no “perfect” way to do this. Your vision board is yours. It should feel empowering, not like another item on your to-do list.

And remember you’re allowed to change your mind, adjust your goal, or create a new board altogether. Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a powerful crossroads. You’re the artist of what comes next.

🎁 Need help getting started?
 Download The Midlife Reset Workbook here – It’s pay-what-you-can, starting at just $4.99.

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Well, my friend, that is all I have for you today. Please share this post with someone you love. Let us know in the comments: What’s the one goal your vision board will focus on this season? 📝

📝 Check out our new workbook:  Ready to Reclaim Your Spark in Midlife?
 The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy.
 If you’re prepared to wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like you again, this workbook is for you. It’s pay-what-you-can, starting at just $4.99.
👉 Grab your copy here

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
 With Peace & Love,
Renee

✨ Check out other empowering resources below to support your midlife journey:

📘 FREE – The Midlife Reboot Workbook
 Feeling stuck in the middle of life? You’re not alone. Download this uplifting and straightforward guide to reconnect with yourself and take the first step toward a life that feels entirely your own.
📥 Download the FREE workbook here

🎁 Need a little inspIt’s Not Over Until I Win inspiration you can hold onto?
 Explore the ‘It’s Not Over Until I Win’ Collection from Renee & Rubys, a bold and beautiful line of journals, mugs, tees, and gifts that remind you (or someone you love) that your story isn’t over, it’s just getting good.
🛍️ Enjoy 20% off your entire order with code ENJOY at checkout!  Click here to shop the collection and spark your daily inspiration

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How to Tell Your Adult Children About Your Traumatic Childhood Without Feeling Like a Victim

Hello and welcome to the Midlife Made Easier blog, where we help midlife women embrace their next chapter, rediscover their voice, put their healing first, and create a life they love.

Today’s post is a tender one. It’s for the women who carry childhood wounds beneath their strength, who’ve endured more than they’ve ever spoken aloud, and who are now wondering if and how to share those experiences with their adult children. I hope this post helps you navigate this tender, sometimes painful path and brings you a little closer to healing.

When They Start Asking Questions

My daughter Melissa is always quizzing me about my childhood. She’s endlessly curious, genuinely wanting to get to know her mama as more than just “Mom,” but as a full, complex woman with her own story, struggles, and triumphs. And I truly appreciate that.

But here’s the truth: it’s hard for me to reveal too much about my past.

There are parts of my childhood that still carry pain, silence, and shadows. I worry that if I open up completely, she and her siblings might see the people in my story, family members, community figures, and even me, through a different, harsher lens. More than anything, I fear she might see me differently. Not as the strong woman she had always been, but as a victim.

That’s a label I’ve fought hard not to wear.

Why Share It at All?

Despite those fears, I do want my children to understand that resilience runs in their blood. They come from strong stock that their mama has survived long, loud, terrifying storms and is still here. Still standing, still loving, still living, still creating beautiful things in this world.

Sharing our painful stories as mothers isn’t about dumping trauma or rewriting anyone’s memories. It’s about showing our children the depth of our strength and the roots of our resilience. It’s a way of saying: If I made it through, so can you.

A Personal Story Meets Practical Advice

As midlife women, we often find ourselves reflecting on the journey that brought us here. For many of us, that journey includes navigating the lingering effects of a traumatic childhood, whether it was marked by abuse, neglect, addiction, or emotional abandonment.

One of the biggest emotional hurdles we face is deciding when, how, or even if we should share that past with our adult children.

8 Gentle Steps for Sharing Your Story

1. Reflect on Your Intentions
 Ask yourself: Why do I want to share this? Is it for healing, connection, transparency, or something else? Getting clear on your “why” will help you share your story more intentionally.

2. Choose the Right Time and Setting
 Pick a quiet, calm time when you and your child are emotionally present and not distracted. Privacy matters. So does timing.

3. Start Small
 You don’t have to tell everything at once. Choose one memory, one experience, or one lesson that feels manageable to share.

4. Be Honest, Not Overwhelming
 You’re not obligated to share every painful detail. Speak from the heart, focus on how the experience shaped you, and be mindful of what you’re ready (and not ready) to discuss.

5. Encourage Questions
 Invite dialogue. Let your child know they can ask questions and share how they’re feeling. It may be emotional, but it’s also a chance to deepen your bond.

6. Set Loving Boundaries
 Some topics may feel too raw or off-limits, and that’s okay. Be clear about what you’re open to discussing and what still needs time.

7. Offer Support
 Let them know it’s okay to feel confused, hurt, or shocked. Share books, therapy resources, or simply a listening ear.

8. Follow Up
 Check in after the conversation. Keep the door open for future talks. Healing isn’t one-and-done—it’s an unfolding.

From Surviving to Thriving

So, when Melissa asks again, and she will, I’ll take a deep breath. I’ll share one thread from the past, one I feel safe holding up to the light. And I’ll remind her, and myself, that our family’s story isn’t just marked by pain. It’s marked by strength. Perseverance. Deep love. And survival.

Because your story, dear one, is not just about what happened to you. It’s about how you rose. And you’re still rising.

If you’re a midlife mama wondering how much to share, know this: you don’t have to do it all at once. You don’t have to do it perfectly. And you don’t have to do it alone. When you’re ready, tell your truth with grace, courage, and the pride of a woman who made it through.

Well, that’s all I have for you today, my friend. If this post resonated with you, please share it with someone you care about. Let us know in the comments: Have you ever had to navigate this conversation? What helped,  or what held you back? 📝

Check Out Our New Workbook:  Ready to Reclaim Your Spark in Midlife?
 Grab The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy. If you’re ready to wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like you again, this workbook is for you. It’s pay-what-you-can, starting at just $4.99.

✨ Explore more empowering resources below to support your midlife journey.

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
With Peace & Love,
Renee

Resources for Your Midlife Journey:

📘 FREE – The Midlife Reboot Workbook: Feeling stuck in the middle of life? You’re not alone. Download this uplifting and straightforward guide to reconnect with yourself and take the first step toward a life that feels entirely your own.  📥 Download the FREE workbook here

🎁 Need a little inspiration you can hold onto?
 Explore the ‘It’s Not Over Until I Win’ Collection from Renee & Rubys, a bold and beautiful line of journals, mugs, tees, and gifts that remind you (or someone you love) that your story isn’t over – it’s just getting good.  🛍️ Enjoy 20% off your entire order with code ENJOY at checkout!  ✨Click here to shop the collection and spark your daily inspiration

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How to Recharge Your Creativity in Midlife and Reignite Your Passion

 Hello and welcome to the Midlife Made Easier blog, where we help midlife women embrace this powerful chapter, rediscover their voice, put their healing first, and create a life they love.

I’ve been a writer for as long as I can remember. My first story, The Great Pie Caper, was typed on a little blue Brother typewriter when I was eight or nine. Writing was my safe space, my way of organizing thoughts, making sense of the world, and finding peace when life felt overwhelming. It gave me clarity, calm, and connection.

But somewhere along the way between graduate school, parenting, and marriages that didn’t last, I lost my creative spark. The love I had for journaling, storytelling, and watching words flow onto a blank page slowly faded under the weight of responsibilities.

If that sounds like you, I want you to know: you’re not alone. And more importantly, your creativity isn’t gone, it’s just been resting.

Today’s blog post is here to help you reclaim that spark. Whether your passion is writing, dance, painting, photography, or music, it’s still inside you. And now, in midlife, is the perfect time to nurture it again.

Why Creativity Matters in Midlife

Creativity at any age is important, but especially in midlife, when our memories start to blur, our roles begin to shift, and our confidence can sometimes waver. Tapping into your creative side can help you:

  • Reignite joy and bring playfulness back into your daily life.
  • Strengthen your mental and emotional health through expression and reflection.
  • Reconnect with your authentic self and rediscover who you are outside of your role.s

Here are a few gentle ways to begin recharging your creative energy:

1. Start Where You Are

You don’t need a fancy studio, expensive supplies, or a specific goal in mind. Start with what you have. Grab a notebook, a paintbrush, a camera, or just sit and let your imagination wander.

2. Give Yourself Permission

Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity. Let go of the need to “get it right.” Your art, whatever form it takes, is valid simply because it came from you.

3. Create a Ritual

Even 10–15 minutes a day devoted to your creativity can create a ripple effect. Light a candle, brew your favorite tea, and make your creative time a sacred space.

4. Surround Yourself with Inspiration

Read books that light you up, visit local art shows, and listen to music that stirs your soul. Creativity is contagious. Immerse yourself in it.

5. Connect with Other Creatives

Find a local or online community of women who are also rediscovering their creative passions. You don’t have to walk this journey alone.

You don’t have to try all of these tips at once. In fact, I recommend starting with just one or two. Small, consistent steps are often the most powerful.

I genuinely believe that every living person holds the potential for creativity. My son, Alex, expresses his creativity in two beautifully different ways. Writing peaceful Buddhist affirmations and diving into technical project management systems (which I don’t always understand, but deeply admire). Both are expressions of his passions, and both are equally creative. You have that same spark within you.

Don’t be afraid to explore, experiment, and rediscover what lights you up. And one final suggestion: while doing a hobby with someone can be wonderful, your creative journey might begin in solitude, and that’s perfectly okay. You don’t need any naysayers holding you back while you’re just starting to bloom.

Give yourself the space and grace to grow. Your creativity is not behind you; it’s still here, waiting patiently for you to return.

Well, that’s all I have for you today, my friend. I hope this post helps you take that first step back toward your creative self.

Please share this post with someone you love who is feeling creatively lost. And let us know in the comments: What’s one creative spark you want to reignite this month? 📝

Check out our new workbook:
 Ready to Reclaim Your Spark in Midlife?
 The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy.   If you’re ready to wake up excited again, reconnect with your purpose, and feel like you again, this workbook is for you.  It’s pay-what-you-can, starting at just $4.99.

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
With Peace & Love,
Renee

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How to Reclaim Your Energy in Midlife Without Burning Out

Listen to the Midlife Made Easier Podcast: Body Boost — Reclaiming Your Energy

Hey friend, and welcome to Part Three of our Midlife Reset Challenge!

Today, we’re exploring one of midlife’s biggest challenges—and most significant opportunities—reclaiming your energy.

Let’s be honest. You’re not alone if you’ve ever felt like you hit a wall after 45. One minute you’re multitasking like a champ, and the next, you just want to collapse on the couch with a bag of chips and your favorite comfort show.

I’ve been there.

No one tells you that perimenopause and menopause can completely drain your energy, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally, too. I remember a season where I felt like a shell of myself. After work, all I had the strength to do was lie down, scroll my phone, and emotionally eat. It felt like survival. But in reality, it was slowly robbing me of the life I wanted to live.

What I didn’t realize back then is that my habits—though comforting in the moment—were making it harder for me to feel energized, connected, and alive. I wasn’t just tired. I was disconnected from joy.

That’s one of the reasons I wrote The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy. I never want you to wake up and realize a whole year has passed without doing the things you love—or becoming the woman you know you’re meant to be.

Let’s change that. Together.

🧡 Why You’re So Tired (And What You Can Do About It)

Hormonal shifts, chronic stress, sleep disturbances, nutrient deficiencies, and even unhealed emotional exhaustion are all culprits of that midlife burnout. Add in years of caregiving, career changes, grief, and transitions—and of course, you’re exhausted.

But you can take your energy back.
No shame. No judgment. Just simple, powerful strategies you can start today.

🌞 3 Body-Boost Tips to Reclaim Your Energy Naturally

1. Start Your Day with Protein and Fiber

Put down the sugary cereal or plain toast. A protein- and fiber-rich breakfast is one of the best ways to stabilize your blood sugar, support hormone balance, and give your body what it needs to perform well—without the crash.

Try this:

  • Scrambled eggs with spinach and avocado on whole grain toast
  • A protein smoothie with flaxseeds, greens, and berries
  • Greek yogurt with chia seeds, nuts, and sliced pear

This combo keeps you fuller longer and fuels your mind and mood for the day ahead.

2. Get Natural Light Within the First Hour of Waking

Your circadian rhythm (your internal body clock) is deeply affected by light. Getting even 10–15 minutes of natural light first thing in the morning helps boost alertness, regulate your hormones, and improve your sleep at night.

Try this:

  • Step outside for your morning coffee
  • Take a short walk without sunglasses (if it’s safe to do so)
  • Open all your blinds and let the sun in while you stretch or pray

This one habit can shift your entire day.

3. Move Your Body with Intention—Not Intensity

You don’t need a high-impact workout. You just need to move gently and consistently. Movement boosts circulation, increases feel-good endorphins, and helps manage midlife weight, inflammation, and anxiety.

Try this:

  • 20 minutes of walking after meals
  • A gentle yoga routine in the morning or before bed
  • 10-minute stretch breaks during your workday

Focus on movement that supports—not depletes—you.

💡 You Don’t Need More Hustle—You Need More Intention

Your body is not broken. It’s asking for your attention.
In this season, energy isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing the right things for your body, mind, and soul.

When you nourish yourself mindfully and consistently, you begin to shift. You feel it in how you wake up, engage with others, and show up for yourself.

And yes, it takes time. But every small choice adds up.

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  • A beautifully designed free printable workbook to help you personalize your reset
  • Four weeks of email support to keep you encouraged, focused, and on track—because you don’t have to do this alone.

💬 Let us know in the comments: What drains your energy the most these days? And what’s one change you’re ready to make?

📅 Join us tomorrow for Day 4: Mindset Shift—From Self-Doubt to Self-Trust. Because energy starts in the mind, how you speak to yourself matters more than you know.

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
—Renee

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How to Embrace the Midlife Pivot and Rewrite Your Story

Listen to a new episode of the Midlife Made Easier Podcast: Part 2 – The Power of the Midlife Pivot: Rewrite Your Story”:

Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Midlife Made Easier blog!

If you’re just joining us, we’re in Part Two of the Midlife Reset Challenge, and today we’re diving into a topic that’s close to the heart for many of us: the midlife pivot.

Let’s be honest—midlife can sneak up on you. One day, you’re rolling through your routine, and the next, you’re hit with a feeling that something isn’t working anymore. That’s not a crisis. Your soul whispers, “It’s time for something new.”

This is your pivot moment.

A midlife pivot is when you finally recognize that the old way of doing life—the people-pleasing, overworking, putting yourself last—is no longer sustainable or satisfying. Instead of spiraling into fear, you choose to lean into change with curiosity, clarity, and courage.

💡 So, how do you pivot gracefully in midlife?

Here are 3 empowering ways to begin:

1. Tell Yourself the Truth
Take a moment to ask yourself—what’s really not working anymore? Maybe it’s a draining job, a relationship that no longer nourishes you, or even outdated beliefs about what your life “should” look like. You can’t fix what you won’t face. Honesty is the foundation of your pivot.

Midlife wisdom begins with radical truth-telling to yourself.

2. Stop Asking for Permission
You do not need approval to change. Let that sink in. So often we delay our growth, waiting for others to validate our decisions. Your life doesn’t need a permission slip—it requires a vision. Whether it’s returning to school, starting a business, or moving to a new city, give yourself full permission to begin again.

3. Define Success on Your Terms
At this stage of life, success may no longer look like titles, bank accounts, or five-year plans. Maybe it’s downsizing to live more simply. Perhaps it’s leaving a career that no longer excites you. Or maybe it’s choosing to prioritize peace over pressure. You get to rewrite the rules.

Midlife isn’t the end of the road—it’s a powerfully aligned crossroads.

It’s your invitation to stop surviving and start thriving. This is the time to rewrite your story with intention, grace, and joy.

You are not too old.
You are not too late.
You are right on time for your next beautiful beginning.

💬 Let us know in the comments: What pivot are you feeling called to make right now?
📤 Share this post with someone you love who’s navigating their own midlife reset.
🎧 Join us tomorrow for Part 3, where we’ll be talking about Body Boost: Reclaiming Your Energy with simple, sustainable changes.

📥 Download your copy of The Midlife Reset: 21 Days to Reignite Your Energy, Confidence & Joy. Includes a free printable workbook and 4 weeks of email support to help you stay inspired and on track.

With Peace & Love,
Renee

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How to Live on Less and Still Buy the Good Toilet Paper

For 2025, my goal is simple: live on less than I make while still enjoying a fantastic life. I’m not giving up my mani-pedis, massages, or getting my hair done every two weeks—those are non-negotiables. But I’ve realized there are other areas where I can cut expenses without sacrificing joy. 

Why I’m Doing This 

Two big reasons: 

  1. I want to quit my full-time job by the end of the year to work on my business full-time. 
  2. I want to retire comfortably while traveling, having fun, and living on my own terms. 

This journey has also opened my eyes to something deeper: my relationship with money. Even at 64, I’m learning that financial healing is possible. And if I can do it, so can you. 

How I’m Cutting Costs (Without Sacrificing Joy) 

1. Dining In More Often 

I love eating out, but cooking at home saves so much money. I’m planning meals and experimenting with delicious, healthy meals that excite me to eat at home. 

2. Reevaluating Subscriptions 

I reexamined my streaming services, memberships, and apps. Do I need them all? Nope. I kept the ones I used and canceled the rest. 

3. Smart Grocery Shopping 

Buying in bulk, shopping sales, and using cashback apps are easy ways to save. And yes, I still buy good toilet paper—because some things in life are worth it. 

4. Prioritizing Experiences Over Things 

Instead of impulse shopping, I’m focusing on experiences that bring me joy—like road trips, spending time with loved ones, and investing in my personal growth. 

5. Finding Creative Ways to Save 

From using reward points to negotiating better service deals, I’m becoming more mindful of where my money goes. 

This journey isn’t about deprivation—it’s about intentional spending. It’s about spending in ways that align with my values and long-term goals. If you want to live well while spending less, I hope this blog inspires you. 

Until next time, take care of yourself and each other. And don’t forget to check out the resources below for more money-saving tips! 

With peace and love, 
Renee 

Midlife Made Easier: Essential Resources for Reinventing Yourself 

Explore these empowering resources designed to support your journey of self-discovery, confidence, and well-being in midlife. 

🔹 “I Am” Mandala Coloring Book Relax, reflect, and rediscover your strength with 46 beautifully crafted pages featuring powerful “I Am” affirmations. Boost creativity, mindfulness, and inner peace. 

🔹 “It’sNot Over Until I Win” Collection  Visit Renee & Ruby’s, our online store, and declare your resilience with this inspiring collection. Wear your strength proudly and remind yourself daily that you have what it takes to keep going. [Get 20% off with code ENJOY] 

🔹 “Midlife Reboot Workbook” This free guide is a roadmap for midlife women ready to reinvent themselves. Discover self-exploration exercises, goal-setting strategies, health and wellness tips, and confidence-building techniques to create a fulfilling new chapter. 

Your next chapter starts now—embrace it with confidence and purpose! 💖 

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The World Is Ageist—How to Navigate a Society That Thinks You’re Irrelevant

I was already behind. At least, that’s how it felt.

After my divorce, I returned to work, believing that my degree and the business my ex-husband and I built would count for something. But no one saw my years of running a household, raising five kids, and managing a business as “real” work experience. Suddenly, I was the oldest one in every room I entered. And now, in my 60s, that feeling hasn’t gone away—it’s only intensified.

The world is ageist, no doubt about it. But here’s the truth: just because society tries to write us off doesn’t mean we have to accept it. We have value. We have wisdom. And we have the right to take up space.

So, how do we navigate a world that constantly tries to make us feel invisible? Here are three ways to resist ageism and reclaim your relevance.

1. Own Your Experience—It’s More Valuable Than You Think

Years of running a household? Leadership, multitasking, financial management, crisis resolution, and negotiation skills all rolled into one. Decades of work in a field that’s now “too young” for you? That means you know and insights that can’t be learned overnight. Don’t let outdated hiring practices or societal biases make you question your worth. Speak up about your experience with confidence. You’ve earned it.

2. Keep Learning and Stay Curious

One of the biggest stereotypes about aging is that we stop evolving. Prove them wrong. Stay curious, learn new skills, and adapt to change. Whether it’s technology, a new career path, or a personal passion, embracing growth keeps you engaged and clarifies that age does not equal stagnation.

3. Surround Yourself with People Who See Your Worth

You don’t have to convince everyone of your value. Some people will always underestimate you. The key is to build a community of people who respect, support, and uplift you. Find mentors, peers, and friends who celebrate your wisdom instead of dismissing it.

You are not invisible. You are not irrelevant. And you are certainly not too old to take up space in any room.

Share this post with someone you love. Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.

With peace and love,
Renee

Midlife Made Easier: Essential Resources for Reinventing Yourself

Explore these empowering resources designed to support your journey of self-discovery, confidence, and well-being in midlife.

🔹 “I Am” Mandala Coloring Book Relax, reflect, and rediscover your strength with 46 beautifully crafted pages featuring powerful “I Am” affirmations. Boost creativity, mindfulness, and inner peace.

🔹 “It’s Not Over Until I Win” Collection  Visit Renee & Ruby’s, our online store, and declare your resilience with this inspiring collection. Wear your strength proudly and remind yourself daily that you have what it takes to keep going. [Get 20% off with code ENJOY]

🔹 “Embrace Your Next Chapter” Guide  This free guide is a roadmap for midlife women ready to reinvent themselves. Discover self-exploration exercises, goal-setting strategies, health and wellness tips, and confidence-building techniques to create a fulfilling new chapter.

Your next chapter starts now—embrace it with confidence and purpose! 💖