Listen to: What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You

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In today’s blog post, we’re talking about something many of us have been taught to avoid or bury jealousy.

For many of us who grew up in faith-based homes, jealousy came with warnings and biblical consequences. And if you’re someone who loves lifting others—someone who claps loudly for her friends, it can be deeply uncomfortable to acknowledge jealousy when it rises in your own chest.

I’ve felt it too. I’ve felt jealous toward couples whose marriages are still thriving, while mine didn’t last. I’ve thought about yoga teachers who can still teach multiple classes a week, while my arthritis decides whether I’m moving or sitting that day. I’ve felt it toward coaches releasing programs, books, and podcasts, while I’m still finding my rhythm in this chapter of life.

But here’s the gift of midlife: we get better at telling ourselves the truth.
We grow wiser. We become more compassionate with ourselves. And instead of letting jealousy consume us, we can sit with it, examine it, and let it guide us toward healing and growth.

If jealousy isn’t an issue for you, I’m truly happy for you. But if you’re like me, still growing, discovering, rebuilding, I want to share four powerful ways to examine your jealousy and uncover what it’s trying to teach you.

1. Jealousy Shows You What You Still Want

Jealousy isn’t just a negative emotion; it’s information. It highlights desires that may have gone quiet under the weight of responsibility, heartbreak, or exhaustion. When you feel jealous of someone else’s marriage, success, or freedom, it may be pointing you toward something you still long for. Instead of judging yourself, ask: “What desire is this awakening in me?” Sometimes the ache is really a longing waiting for permission to be felt.

2. Jealousy Helps You Notice Where You Feel Limited

Jealousy often arises when you feel stuck. Maybe your body can’t do what it used to.
Maybe time feels short. Maybe your confidence is shaky.

Jealousy can reveal places where you feel restricted, physically, emotionally, financially, or energetically. By acknowledging the limitation without shame, you can start exploring solutions, support, or even a new mindset. Ask yourself: “Where do I feel held back, and what small shift could help me move forward?”

3. Jealousy Invites You to Honor Your Grief

In midlife, we carry both victories and losses. Some dreams didn’t happen. Some relationships ended. Some abilities changed. Some seasons closed before we were ready.

Jealousy often arises when we see someone living something we’ve had to let go of or never experienced. This isn’t weakness; it’s grief asking to be acknowledged. Ask: “Is this jealousy… or is it unspoken grief?” When you name grief, it stops controlling you.

4. Jealousy Pushes You Toward Growth

Jealousy can be a compass. It can push you to try something new, improve a skill, take better care of your body, heal old wounds, or dream again.

When you approach jealousy with curiosity instead of judgment, it becomes a teacher—not an enemy. Try asking: “What is this moment inviting me to grow into?” You might be surprised by the answer.

My friend, jealousy doesn’t make you weak, petty, or ungrateful.
It makes you human. And in midlife, we have earned the right to examine our emotions honestly, lovingly, and with grace, and take action to create a life we love.

That’s all I have for you today. If this post resonated with you, please share it with someone you love and let us know in the comments: What has jealousy been trying to teach you lately?

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Until next time, take care of yourself and each other.
With Peace & Love,
Renee

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