When I start to work with a new client, one of the first things I like for them to identify is their support system. When you try to do something that you have never done before, you do not need to be pulled away from your focus by family and friends who do not support your vision for your life. When you change everything in your life has to change, the more you align your life with your goals the greater your chances of success.
That is not to say that they have to agree with you completely, but they should refrain from throwing water on your dreams by reminding you of all the times you didn’t quite hit the mark in the past. Sometimes, they might think they are helpful with comments like:
- “You can lose the weight on your own.”
- “Are you even trying? Try harder.”
- “Just eat less and workout more.”
- “Shouldn’t you be thinking of retiring instead of starting a new career?”.
- “People your age don’t run marathons.”
- “Is the pain that bad or is it in your head.”
- “Your time has passed; it’s time to let the younger folks have a turn.”
These are just a few of my clients’ comments, and I have heard when we confided to our closest confidants about our plans to make changes in our lives. When they recall the comments, many clients break down in tears.
Whether it is losing weight, starting a new career path, or pursuing your purpose, and maybe your new career path is your purpose. You must create a support system that supports you unconditionally, holds you accountable when you don’t believe you can do it, and loves you no matter how many times you must start over.
Anyone who does not fall in step with your plans is dead weight, and you should eliminate them immediately. You do not have to cut them out of your life entirely if you do not want too, just do not let them into your inner circle.
Make a list of three people you can count on to support your journey towards a new you.
With Love and Peace,